Yesterday we discovered a new kind of connection. Gary, Miranda and I met up with a family who was in our adoption group. They took the classes with us, freaked out about the home study details with us, panicked when it was time to make the video with us...and then got matched with a baby boy shortly after us. Their son and our daughter are 3 weeks apart. So we met up yesterday to trade stories and meet babies and I was hoping it would be the beginning of something amazing. And it was.
We were able to share our hopes and our fears about parenthood but also about adoption. We were able to talk about the nuances of open adoption. We were able to discuss terminology like termination of rights and birth parents. We compared hotel stays (their adoption was also out of state) and the fear and confusion and then happiness and euphoria that went along with it. It was amazing.
I feel like the connection we made with this family is one that we will cherish for a long time to come. We are already talking about when we can meet up next and as the children get older, what kind of things we should do with them together. Our connection will make them be connected and have (if they want) someone in their lives that they can talk about adoption with (should they want). I think it's super cool!
Before we met up with them in the afternoon, I had brunch with some friends that I have known since my pre-teen days. We went to Hebrew School together...and then as we got older, Dorney Park and Camp Ramah and NKOTB concerts. There is nothing like the friends you had when you were in your youth - when not much else mattered but having fun and vanishing blackheads and who had a crush on whom.
|Hannah and Miranda at brunch|
Our last but not least "connection" of the weekend came with the arrival home of my youngest brother and his wife. After 21 months in New Zealand, Thailand, Japan, Bulgaria and places in-between, they have come home to settle and put down roots. The minute they both laid eyes on Miranda, I could feel the love pouring out of them. It made my heart soar and I am thrilled that my daughter has such an amazing family of aunts and uncles and cousins and grandparents to help guide her way.
|Miranda and Uncle Jeff & Aunt Neda|