But we are not complaining. Each question we answer, each form we fill out...they all bring us closer to our baby. OUR BABY! It's becoming more and more of a reality. Our hope is back. Our excitement and anticipation is back. We are back.
There is no way to fill out his paperwork and not reflect on our lives. The agency wants to know everything there is to know about us so they can match us with the baby that is meant to be ours. We have had to detail the many facets of our relationship. And then our relationship with our parents. Our parents relationship with each other. Our relationships with our siblings. Our relationships with our friends. Our work history. Our feelings on adoption. Our religious views. Our ways to cope with stress. Our ways to cope with grief and loss. See? Lots of writing!
Amid all the papers and clearances, a few things have become very clear.
- Allie is very much present in our lives and has helped shape the people that we are and the people we have become.
- We have the most amazing support system in the world. From our families to our friends and to the friends of friends and friends of family.
- We will become parents again.
Today I am not angry that she is gone. I am just happy I got to know her at all. Not sure I will feel like that tomorrow, but I know the value of feeling what I feel in the moment.
Our fundraising event is well under way. It's less than a month away now. We have sold more than half the tickets we have and so many people have offered their help in so many ways. Without even counting the ticket sales, we have already raised about $3,000!! Many donations are not reflected here, but trust me, we have been receiving them. From friends and family far and wide and from complete strangers, too. People who heard our story and want to help. There are no words. Well, there are. Thank you.
"I had a dream my life would be
So different from this hell I'm living
So different now from what it seemed
Now life has killed the dream I dreamed."
...except it hasn't. This lyric from Les Misérables has resonated with me so much since that dark day in April 2011 is not longer true for me. My life is not over. My dreams have not died.
And so I look upon this new year with hope and love and joy. For I think this coming year is going to bring all of those things to my family of 3. Gary, Allie and me.